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Bedroom is the most intimate room

Saturday, July 18th, 2009

A bedroom is the most intimate room in your home. Soft lights and soothing or stirring music invite disclosure of secrets. For married couples, it is the place to explore the landscape of the person you love in murmured conversation or tactile pleasure. Let both moonlight and thunder ripple through the windows. Get enveloped in the scent of body oil and the sound of giggles mixed with sighs. Let the space be filled with things that vivid knowing. Because frumpy isn’t even a word in the boudoir, you must romance yourself long before you romance someone else. Live, the Turkish mystic Rumi said, “until life itself becomes the
lover.” Any woman must know how to create amour for herself.
Isn’t the spirit of in—love-ness, along with its excitement, desire, and passionate exchange, exactly the dynamic you want your bedroom to incite?
In the celebratory mode of boudoir sweet, I’m sure I’ve broken a hundred rules of haute decor, but the result is inspired by the drama of life itself.
The bedroom I would die for is the khaki safari tent that served as part-time boudoir of Karen Blixen, aka Isak Dinesen, whose life was portrayed by Meryl Streep in Out of Africa. Dinesen was a woman after my own heart, for she chose adventure over comfort, and she even knew the most luxurious hotels couldn’t hold a candle to the place that holds your heart.